by Vin DiCarlo
Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.
And it’s quite sad.
So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.
But I had my brain up my butt.
… that may sounds a little harsh.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.
I’ve accepted what I am.
Sure, I like video games and comic books.
But…
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is Myspace, shopping and getting drunk any cooler than what I’m into?
It’s all have connection.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
A woman won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself.
Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don’t like yourself?
She will HATE your presence and don’t want to be around you.
Because you can’t really like a woman, if you don’t like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?
It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”
Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I am one of them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.
Because that’s you.
You are not divided from your game.
Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.
Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.
Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.
I’m not conscious about shaping.
And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.
In fact, it’s self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.
As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.
But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you come to a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she’s lucky you talked to her, she’ll feel that way.
Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.
But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you’re struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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